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My Nightmare

April 4th, 2009 at 01:12 am

When dh submitted his retirement application, he had to provide a copy of our marriage certificate... not a big deal, and dh was "almost certain" we had a copy in our safe deposit box. We just celebrated 15 years of wedded bliss, but for some reason, this requirement resulted in a chilling thought: what if we are NOT really married? To explain why I would think this way, I must share some of the details of our wedding day.

Our wedding was the epitome of simplicity. We got married on a glorious spring day in our own home, in the company of our children and our closest family and friends, about 25 guests in all. The ceremony was officiated by a friend, a kindergarten teacher I worked with. The delicious food was catered by another teacher and her husband and cost ~$125. The exquisite wedding cake was baked by my sister and was a culinary work-of-art decorated with fresh roses from our yard. My DS also made my delicate wedding bouquet.

The live music (guitar and vocals) was provided by my step-children's godparents and added a very special touch. Champagne and drinks were from Costco, and my stepdaughter and I had fun making the favors. My wedding dress cost ~$150 and was an elegant tea-length ivory gown (bought on sale, of course). We married on a Sunday and took Monday off for a mini-honeymoon in San Francisco. On Tuesday, I returned to work.

Somehow, the details of filing the official document to record our marriage fell to someone else, because I KNOW I didn't do it. What was most alarming was that dh told me he didn't do it, either. Well, the good news is... we ARE legally married! I carefully read the certificate and it is true AND official. Neither one of us remembers how the paperwork was filed, but all that matters is that it was. Phew!

6 Responses to “My Nightmare”

  1. whitestripe Says:
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    i would say it may have been your friend who did the ceremony? maybe?

  2. lizajane Says:
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    I'm glad you're legal. That would have been a heck of a nightmare to uncover this late in the game!

  3. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    Thanks for the reminder. I have to get documentation of our marriage for the same reason and have a similar fear. A judge married us, so I would think the paper got filed properly. My real fear is bureaucracy. You see, neither of us remembers the date (believe it or not!). I'm afraid that when I go in to get the certificate, the clerks will be unwilling to scout the records under the two weeks or so range in which we are sure we were married. Yeah, I need to get on this.

  4. monkeymama Says:
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    Officiants usually take care of that. I see your concern that it was a "friend," but sounds like she did her job. Big Grin
    & glad it was done!

  5. dmontngrey Says:
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    Kinda funny NOW, but oh that would have been a nightmare for you!! I think Joan is in a rather interesting predicament!

  6. Ima saver Says:
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    The first time I married, my certificate used my last name for both my husband and myself. Luckily, I did not have a problem getting a divorce!!

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